Wow! I feel so full! Full of love and inspiration, encouragement and conviction, ideas and ideals. I have recently returned from Sally Clarkson's Mom Heart Conference in Dallas, TX, and I am ready to go! Ready to be the mom that I am supposed to be. Ready to have a change of heart for my kids. Ready to change my focus from raising happy, successful, well-adjusted kids to raising kids who believe and love Jesus! Ready to be a different mom.
My eyes were opened to the negative energy that I bring to our household. There is a phrase that I use when I am disciplining my girls: "I love you too much to allow you to act that way." This weekend, those were the exact words God used on me. He loves me too much to allow me to act this way. I heard myself saying to the girls, "you chose to disobey", "you need to change your attitude", "you need to have self-control", and I realized that it was me, not them. I'm the one who often times has a bad attitude. I'm the one who needs self-control. And I'm the one who disobeys God's word ("do not exasperate your children"-Eph. 6:4, "do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen"-Eph. 4:29). But God is not punishing me for it. He is graciously bringing it to my attention and showing me a different way, His way.
One thing Sally said during the conference really struck a chord with me: "Aren't you glad that Jesus doesn't require first-time obedience from us?" Oh yes. I am so glad! I realized that I need to have alot more grace with my girls. Teach them and train them and even discipline them, but do it with love and grace instead of with a stern voice and a frown on my face. I want my girls to know that I am HAPPY to be their mom. I was God's first choice when he was choosing a mother for my kids. And I am so glad he chose me.